LAST CONVERSATION TO STRIKE UP (well maybe not, but it’ll be your last tip for this topic. I think…………..)
QUESTIONS, QUESTIONS, QUESTIONS: When we ask open-ended questions, it takes the pressure off of us to speak, and allows the other person to talk and feel heard. Try asking about someone else’s background.
Example:
Hey, welcome to the team. Where did you join us from?
Hey, I heard that you just moved to the area. Where were you before?
So I’ve never asked you about your move to xxxx country. How was the transition?
MORE HELP IN THE FORM OF ADVICE: Everyone likes to feel needed and that they can help in some way or another. Be careful though. Don’t ask for personal advice if you aren’t really close with the person you are asking.
Example:
The format I’m using for my presentation next week just isn’t sitting well with me. Do you have any ideas of how to make it pop more?
SHARED INTERESTS or ACTIVITIES: We’ve already talked about this a bit, but let’s come at it from another angle. If you see a stranger who’s got the same computer as you, or you know someone who has the same reading interests as you, you can use that.
Examples:
Hey, I see you are reading XXX. I just finished that last week. I won’t spoil it for you, but man idoes it have a good ending
Hey, I just upgraded my motherboard in the same computer because I loved it so much. Do you like yours?
HAHAHAHAHA JOKES FOR THE WIN: Make sure it’s not offensive or off-kilter. I love jokes. I love making people laugh and I love laughing. It is always a great way to build a connection with someone.
Example: He gave a great 10-minute business speech yesterday. The only problem was it took him an hour to deliver it.
“Don’t look in front of you at the insurmountable mountains, look behind you at the ones you have already conquered. ”